Why asking for help is a strength, not a weakness

There’s a quiet belief many of us carry without ever really questioning it…

I should be able to do this on my own.

It shows up in business, in relationships, in our health, in our homes.

And especially in women who are capable, independent, and used to holding things together.

Recently, that belief was gently challenged for me in an unexpected way.

I attended a networking event, a brand-new one I’d never been to before.

Nothing unusual there.

But the structure was different.

At the end of your introduction, you weren’t just asked to say who you were and what you did.

You had to ask for something.

You had to say:

• This is what I’m looking for

• This is the support I need

• These are the connections I’m open to

And I’ll be honest, it caught me off guard.

Not because I didn’t know what I needed.

But because I realised how rarely I say it out loud.

I’m great at cheering others on.

Connecting people.

Sharing contacts and opportunities.

But when it comes to my business, my default is still: I’ll figure it out.

So when I got back, I did something I don’t always do.

I asked for help.

I shared on my Instagram stories that I was looking for radio contacts.

I asked if anyone knew anyone.

I let myself be visible in my not-knowing and needing help.

And the response was genuinely lovely.

Supportive. Encouraging. Warm.

Which made me wonder why we wait so long to do this?

So many women walk around carrying the belief that they have to do everything alone.

We don’t ask for help in business.

We don’t ask for support with our health.

We don’t ask when we feel lost, overwhelmed, or unsure of our next step.

Instead, we tell ourselves:

• I should know this

• I should be able to handle it

• I don’t want to be a burden

But humans aren’t designed to do life solo.

We thrive in community.

We grow through connection.

We soften when we’re supported.

Asking for help doesn’t make you weak.

It makes you honest.

Here’s something worth remembering.

People come to me for Feng Shui because this is my area of expertise.

I’ve studied it. I live it. I see patterns others can’t yet see.

And the same is true for you.

There are things that come easily to you that other people struggle with.

Things you do without effort that feel impossible to someone else.

So when you ask for help, you’re not taking.

You’re participating in a natural exchange.

This is how support works.

If you ever feel lost.

If you ever don’t know who to ask.

If you ever need support, guidance, or a connection…

You can ask me.

It might not be Feng Shui or your home.

But chances are, I know someone or I know someone who knows someone.

Connection is everywhere when we allow ourselves to use it.

What Feng Shui says about support

In Feng Shui, the energy of help, mentors, and support lives in the North West area of your home, often called the Helpful People area.

When this area is blocked, cluttered, or neglected, it can mirror the feeling of:

• doing everything alone

• struggling to receive support

• constantly carrying the load

If your North West feels heavy, sharp, broken, or forgotten, it may be quietly reinforcing the belief that you have to manage everything by yourself.

Gentle ways to soften this area.

You don’t need to overhaul your home to shift this energy.

Start gently:

• Clear clutter, especially things you’ve been “meaning to deal with”

• Remove broken or unused items

• Add something supportive — a lamp to brighten a dark area, a meaningful object that brings that feeling of support, something solid.

• Soften sharp lines and harsh energy

Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re failing.

It means you trust yourself enough to say:

I don’t have to carry this alone anymore.

So this week, let yourself ask.

Ask for support.

Ask for guidance.

Ask for connection.

Life becomes richer, lighter, and more spacious when you allow yourself to be held by your people, and by your home.